A “New Years Resolution” is described in the Cambridge dictionary as “a promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year”. Immediately below this definition is a list of words relating to “breaking promises” which is often a traditional next step in this particular process.
No need to kick the idea of resolution into the long grass too quickly though as further exploration of the word reveals that it can involve more than a broken promise. In visual terms ‘resolution’ is clarifying the image so that you see the picture with greater clarity and depth. Musically ‘resolution’ describes a moving through dissonance to consonance, and in literature the ‘resolution’ refers to the unfolding or solution of a complicated issue in a story, a denouement wherein the chief dramatic complication is worked out.
Resolution, rather than a grim determination to make yourself do something different, can be a more dynamic process of reflection and thinking, through which you get clearer about what you really want for this year, where you really are now and what you can do specifically to find the rhythm which will enable you to achieve the change you are looking for.
Resolution involves gaining clarity about your situation, where you are already strong and the good foundations you have for change as well as recognising the obstacles you are facing externally, and the ways in which you may be holding yourself back internally. The integration of a coaching and therapeutic approach sometimes known as ‘personal consultancy’ can enable you to see the patterns of thinking, feeling or behaviour that are no longer serving you well. Through having the coach listen in a particular way, creating a Thinking Environment® for you can, as described by Nancy Kline, enable you to “think with rigour imagination courage and grace”. The quality of what you will do is usually determined by the quality of the thinking you do about it first. The coach enables you to generate the particular; unique to you, incisive questions that will help you remove and replace limiting assumptions with workable true liberating assumptions.
This goes a long way towards achieving a resolution that is beyond a promise. The ‘aha’ moments which are generated through this independent thinking can, like turning the ignition of a car and feeling the engine roar into life, get you moving in the direction you want to go. Coaching can enable you to make sure that you are accessing the best way for you to fuel your engine as well as determining the destination you want and the best means of navigating there. Meeting regularly enables you to find the focus, keep yourself on track, and persevere when it gets tough or you feel demoralised. It enables you to monitor your progress, and keep connected to your strengths and achievements all of which keeps the momentum going. It’s generally an enjoyable process and though you may face some difficult truths you will also discover and appreciate some of your unique and genuine qualities and improve your relationship with yourself and others.
If you would like to find out more have a look at the testimonials on my website under the Executive Coaching or Personal Consultancy tabs to see how others have described the benefits. If you want to take the first step to explore whether working with me can help you in this process of resolution for a new year, get in touch to arrange a free consultation for yourself on the phone or in person.
Happy New Year!